A degree of balance in life will stand us on firm ground when we are hit with life’s storms. Being able to understand our excessive tendencies and allow them to surface without suppression or reaction, can require great self-discipline and practice. Being mindful in our behaviour to benefit our future selves and those around us. Immoderation is achieved through strengthening our ability for delayed gratification to achieve a life designed in conscious awareness and not through impulse or self-indulgence. We can actively choose the life we wish to lead and not react to extravagant whims and self-gratification at the expense of our own integrity and moral code.
You are impulsive, prone to overindulgence, and experience strong urges that you may find difficult to control.
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Acting on an impulse can have negative consequences. Prior to submitting to an unnecessary urge, consider a "buffer" period of 20-30 minutes. Remind yourself that you can satisfy that urge (whether it's an unhealthy snack, smoking a cigarette, or speaking frankly with someone) once the time has passed. You may find you no longer have that urge, or that you want to address it in a more productive way.
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You usually display positive self-control, though occasionally give in to your urges, especially if you are experiencing more stress than usual.
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If you're feeling particularly stressed and experiencing a strong craving, consider a "buffer" period of 10-20 minutes. Remind yourself that you can satisfy that urge (whether it's an unhealthy snack, smoking a cigarette, or speaking frankly with someone) once the time has passed. You may find you no longer have that urge, or that you want to address it in a more productive way.
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You have the desire to satisfy urges in a more balanced manner.
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Your inclination to delay gratification is a positive asset. You could use this to your advantage by setting higher standards for yourself in terms of your personal goals (exercise and healthy eating goals) and professional goals (taking on more difficult projects/clients). Your willingness to put off incentives suggest you'll be able to attain these goals with few self-imposed obstacles. Conventional incentives that include some manner of indulgence may not work so well for you.
This individual has a tendency to be less motivated by some conventional incentives which could suggest that trying to do so will be ineffective. If you're trying to motivate them, having an open conversation about their goals and ambitions could highlight important information about what does motivate them.
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Written by:
Simone Smith, Psychotherapist
Ba Hons Dip Couns NCS registered