Vulnerability is the gateway to joy and happiness. Our lives can be controlled to such an extent that the enrichment of living a spontaneous authentic life is beyond our capability. Disconnecting from our emotions and needs because of an unsafe environment is one we may have learnt to suppress and hide parts of ourselves. The state of vulnerability is where we allow growth and evolution, approaching the unknown and allowing ourselves to be open and free takes a bravery that was once natural in childhood but as adults can be terrifying. Becoming our highest potential and obtaining a rewarding and meaningful life, through the power of vulnerability, that you can be proud of.

What does a higher score mean?

You embrace your vulnerability but the if the environment feels unsafe you may find it difficult to contend with stress, and depend on others for validation and support.

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Mitigate the fear factor and the body’s negative biological responses to stress, by reminding yourself you have done this before. Ask colleagues for help and support when required, but do not hesitate to continue to open yourself up when you have found people who appreciate your sensitivity.

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• Do you feel safe in your work environment?
• Do you have people you trust and depend on?
• Are you authentic in the workplace?

What does a balanced score mean?

You tend to have few difficulties when facing what others perceive to be high-stress situations. Although you can effectively self-regulate during these stressful times, you may occasionally need a brief show of support or encouragement to maintain your comfort.

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While you primarily are able to manage under stress, being consistent about requesting feedback could help validate your work, as well as alleviate your stress by being able to address your areas needing improvement.

Although this individual tends to manage stress quite well and needs little outside support, offering the occasional praise or positive remarks about their work will fortify their level of psychological resilience.

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• Do you receive support when you need it?
• Are you authentic at work?
• Are you able to regulate your stress?

What does a lower score mean?

You are self sufficient and clear-thinking under pressure, with little need for validation. You may sometimes seem closed off, unwilling or unable to open up to others and admit faults or weaknesses.

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Your tendency to be self-sufficient is positive, however, failure to acknowledge when you need help could set you up to fail. You need autonomy in terms of how you complete tasks, but very little direction or supportive approval. A lack of autonomy could be seen as patronizing and undermine their self-efficacy.

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• Do you open up to others?
• Do you ask for support or help when you need it?
• Are you authentic at work?

Written by:

Simone Smith, Psychotherapist

Ba Hons Dip Couns NCS registered

Choice Counselling UK